Developing Intimacy with God
Developing Intimacy with God
Have you ever wondered how to talk to God daily or how to hear from Him? Developing intimacy with God comes from being able to hear His voice as a result of the time you spend with Him. And as your relationship with God gets stronger, He will begin to reveal His secrets to you (the amazing plans and purposes that He has for your life), but you’ll need accountability and discipline to see the fullness of those plans and purposes manifest.
The most important relationship in your life is the one you develop with God. Without this relationship being in order, all of your other relationships will suffer on some level. God didn’t design us to do anything independent of Him. This includes starting a family, building a business, pursuing a career, etc.
How to Hear the Voice of God
Hearing from God is essential to your success as a believer. He is the one that knows the plan and He holds the map to your future. He is the GPS to your destiny. And how far can you get on the road to success if you don’t know the directions?
I first learned how to hear from God after randomly searching for the answer to this same question. I found a YouTube video by Mark Virkler, and I would simply watch the YouTube videos and do what the man of God said lol.
I remember watching the first video that involved a journaling exercise. Halfway through the video, I paused it, and I told God, “Okay, God. If this is you, confirm what I wrote when I continue playing the video.”
I hit play and Mark Virkler selected a man from the audience to read what he wrote in his journal. I kid you not, what the man said was verbatim what I wrote in my journal.
All of this to say, God does the work while you are in His presence. He starts talking to you, changing you, opening up your ears, and opening up your spiritual eyes so you can see, but the key to all of this is spending time with Him.
Remember, it’s a relationship and nobody wants to be with someone who only cares about themselves. If you want to hear from God, you have to stop to listen. Here’s a little poem that my grandfather always used to say to me whenever I was unsure about what God was telling me to do next.
Once my troubles kept me praying
every hour of the day
“Dear God, why won’t you answer?
I have so much to say.”
Then when I paused, God told me,
“I know all of your cares;
But you must stop to listen
For an answer to your prayers.”
Now we share my prayerful moments
Many times throughout the day,
Then I listen for God’s answer
For I know He hears me pray.
So what am I saying? Sit down somewhere lol and listen for God’s voice.
Strengthening your Relationship with God
Think about it like this. Say you are in a relationship with your significant other, you’re married, or you have a best friend. When you’re in a crowd and they yell your name, you’re going to recognize their voice because you have a relationship with them! You hear them over the other voices in the crown because you are connected with them and because you spent a lot of time with them.
It’s the same way with God. Sometimes we overcomplicate this. We have to spend time with God to get to know Him. And as you begin to hear God, as life picks up and you find yourself with more to manage and different things that are competing for your time, you’ll be able to recognize His voice over any other voice because of the intimacy you developed with Him in private.
My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow me: – John 10:27
And how do you develop intimacy? Again prayer, praise and worship, and reading the Bible! The Bible tells us to seek first the Kingdom of God and His way of doing things and all other things will be added unto us (Matthew 6:33).
For me, I was seeking the truth! That’s how I found Mark Virkler’s videos. Sometimes our seek is too passive. When you are seeking God, you are in pursuit of discovering knowledge and understanding as it relates to His character, how He operates, and His will for your life.
God loves to talk to us! In the same way that we love to talk to our friends, He loves when we spend time with Him and are vulnerable to share what’s on our hearts. You don’t have to get ready. God stays ready to talk to us! He’s never too busy. Isn’t that amazing?
Developing Discipline for your Destiny
As your relationship with God grows, He will begin to reveal His plans and purposes for your life and you’re going to need discipline to fulfill what He tells you to do!
Chapter seven of the Break Free Book dives deeper into this topic. It’s called Disciple Equals Discipline and it’s about discipleship and how discipline is a skill. Sometimes we see people achieving their goals and doing what it is that God has put in their heart to do, and we’re like, “Wow, that person is amazing! They have it all together.”
It can be tempting to compare ourselves to the people around us, but we have to remember to move past the personality of the person and look deeper at their character or the skills that they’ve built in order to be that person.
Discipline is a skill. It has to be developed. I don’t think it comes naturally for anyone. You have to ask yourself, “Hey! Am I tired of going around that same mountain that’s got me overwhelmed, frustrated and stuck?” If you want something different, you’ll have to do something different.
A lot of people want results, but they’re unwilling to put in the necessary work required to get them. So ask yourself, “How bad do you really want it?” If you want it bad enough, you will seek your way into discovering what is required in order for you to change.
Don’t be more committed to your struggle than you are to your success. This all goes back to mindset and developing responsible behaviors. There are levels to this! *insert Ciara Level Up Song* Be patient with yourself. It doesn’t all happen overnight.
Your life will never rise above your level of discipline. The Bible tells us:
“Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much, and whoever is dishonest with very little will also be dishonest with much.” – Luke 16:10
Being faithful over little requires discipline!
Sometimes we think that just because God loves us and we want something that it’s going to happen. I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but your dreams are not going to fall out of the sky. You’ve got to put in the work!
Yes, it’s true. God does love us, but He also wants to work through us! So guess what that means? We have to be willing to do our part.
We have to be willing to obey the voice of God. We have to be willing to renew our minds by getting in the Word, confessing the scriptures, and calling things that be not as though they are (Romans 4:17).
That is how God works with us: our faith, our mouth, and our speech. We have to be willing to say it until we see it. We can’t expect to have the results that we see others have, that we desire, or that we dream about if we’re unwilling to be spiritually disciplined and put in the work to develop and become the person that can have what it is that we keep saying we want.
Creating Accountability Systems
Something that will help you develop discipline is having accountability. I have a lot of different types of accountability systems built in my life and business that help me stay on track when I don’t feel like working.
“Accountability separates the dreamers from the doers. Having it communicates that you care enough about your future to account for the actions you take in your daily life.”
-Break Free Book, Chapter 5: Transform Your Thinking
It’s important that you surround yourself with the right people because they will help you stay in alignment with your destiny. (Don’t nobody got time for destiny detours, okay?!)
God put those people in your life to help you grow into the person He called you to be. Iron sharpens iron, right? (Proverbs 27:17) Grass does not sharpen iron so guess what? You’re probably going to be a little uncomfortable.
But if you want to really grow, it’s necessary.
Half the battle a lot of times is showing up, meaning doing what you know is necessary (despite how uncomfortable you are) to get the results you want to see in your life and business. Well, I guess a third of the battle since I always say, “Show up, tell the truth, and do the work! LOL
So let’s review.
- You’ll be able to recognize God’s voice over any other voice because of the intimacy you developed with Him in private.
- Seeking God is not passive. It’s active.
- Discipline is a skill. It has to be developed.
- Your life will never rise above your level of discipline.
- Surround yourself with people who will hold you accountable.
I would love to know your biggest takeaway from this post. Tell me in the comments below or let me know if you have any questions! As always, if you know this post would benefit someone you know, don’t be stingy, share it!